Saturday, December 31, 2005

Off to the Mountains

After a very busy month, we are preparing to head up to the cabin for New Year's.  Time for some well-deserved R & R in the snow.

H A P P Y   N E W    Y E A R ! ! ! !

Found some very cool photos taken at the World Ice Art Championships.  A must see!  Click >here<.


Be safe and aware out there this weekend.  TTFN!


Sunday, December 18, 2005

Easy - #31

Easy - like Sunday the evening.

Okay, I'm really late for this.  What can I say, I've been decorating for the holidays.  So on that note...

Tell me...

Is there a person or a group in your area that really gets into the spirit and takes Christmas decorating to a whole new level?

Where to start?  There are so many.  People around here really get into it.  Not just families, but whole neighborhoods.  We have a street that eleven months out of the year is called Sunset Drive, but in December it is transformed into Candy Cane Lane.   Almost everyone on that street participates and every home has a 3 foot red and white striped wooden candy cane attached to both sides of their mail box.  There are Santas, snowmen and snow women, reindeer, elves, white trees...the entire neighborhood glows with the festive lights of the holiday.

We have several Christmas parades and even the local boat owners have a parade on the river titled Reflections on the Snake; each and every boat is decked out in lights, all with different themes.  There are some very clever and artisic people living in this area.  Many folks brave the cold night temperatures and line the banks of the river to watch the boats float by, brilliantly decorated with hundreds of lights.

Down town the local chamber of commerce presents their annual display titled 'Winter Spirit' and each year it grows bigger and better.  Every tree in Locomotive Park is decorated with thousands of miniture lights in every color of the spectrum,. lighting up the night sky as Christmas songs play endlessly over a stereo.  Children dash under lighted arches rigged with motion sensors that change colors as the children move beneath.  In the park center a massive oak takes center stage, draped in a rainbow of colors dancing to the beat of the music.  It is an awe-some experience.  A couple of years ago the display was featured on A & E television for a program highlighting the top 20 Christmas displays in the nation.  Ours was #14 or #15 and it was such a treat to see all the hard work of so many volunteers showcased on a national television show.  Here's just a small sampling of the display this year.




Okay, now it's your turn.  Tell me, and if you have photos, post those to your journal too, then come back here and leave me a link back to you.  I'll post your answers next Saturday. 

The Fiver 12.16.05

Hi guys!!! 

It's Friday and it is time for what Robin calls "THE 5'er!"

If you want to play all you do is visit Robin by clicking >here< and follow her directions.


Robin thinks with Christmas so near the 5'er theme will be all about Naughty or Nice.


Let's play!!!


1.  Do you ever go to someone's journal and just think to yourself, "Oh they go again...get over it already!"  And do you think your answer is naughty or nice? 
Yes, I do it.  It doesn't happen very often, but every now and then I find myself thinking just that.   I do try to see people in a positive light, but I also know there are those who can drain the essence of another's good will.  They thrive on throwing daily pity parties where they can wallow in their woes and in these journals they found the place to feed that need.  So, is my answer naughty or nice?  It's honest, that's all.   


2.  I kinda think naughty can be fun and nice can get boring. Tell us something you have done lately that was naughty. 
I am so not going there.


3.  Have you ever used the "If you are naughty Santa won't bring you any presents" line on your kids?  And if they remained naughty did you ever withold their presents?
  No, Amy and Kari were a bit too old for that when I met Sam...but my mom was another story.  She was shameless and famous for using that line.  And we believed her, because there came a time when we knew she wouldn't just say it, she would just do it.

4.  If you were at the work Christmas party and your "naughty" boss gave you a squeeze on your back side would you tell anyone?
Absolutely, right after I grabbed his drink and threw it in his face.

5.  Tell us about an unexpected nice thing someone has done for you this December...or something nice you have done for something else that wasn't expecting it. 
Well, shucks, since I haven't been on the receiving end of any nice acts this month...yet, then you'll have to settle for what I did.  Actually what Sam and I did.  We have some new neighbors across the street and good neighbors are hard to find but this couple have impressed us both so far.  Last weekend they found a tree they really liked and we refused to take their money when they asked us how much it cost; they were not expecting it and it was just our way of letting them know we appreciate having good people as neighbors.

Saturday, December 17, 2005

Answers to Easy -- #30

Going to try to get this quickly completed before more customers show up at the tree farm; already had one show up right at 9.
Last Sunday I asked,

Tell me...

What is the most extreme place you have ever visited?

Linda has stood in two extremes found in the western states.  She recollected about a porch in the California desert and a very ch-ch-ch-chilling train depot in Montana.  Click >here< to share her experience.

Sharon writes about time with her family hiking the trails of Mount St. Helens on a rainy day and then finding themselves in the flurry of a snow ball fight.  Click >here< to visit that time with her.

Christy grew up in the mid-western state of Kansas, where the temperatures travel between drastic extremes as the seasons change.  Heck, I even sneezed after reading about the Kansas winter!  Click >here< to visit her.

Charlie commented in the original entry about the time he visited a mission near Moscow.  He keeps a journal titled Courage and you can visit him >here<.

Gotta go, lots of people are showing up at the tree farm and it looks like Sam needs my help.  Have a relaxing Saturday everyone and thank you all for playing this week!

Friday, December 16, 2005

Tidings of the Season

Haven't had much time to write this past week.  Been on vacation all week getting ready for the holidays.  The tree farm has kept us busy, it is fun and very demanding all at the same time.  People always ask how long it takes the trees to grow tall enough to be an average size Christmas tree; they are always surprised when they learn it takes a minimum of seven years from seedling to harvest.  Pictured is the cross section of a con color fir that was between 5 and 6 feet.  You can see the growth rings, but sadly you can't smell the sharp wood-sy scent.  I save these little tree biscuits and plop them in a stove top pot of water; the fragrance is heart warming and I often carry one in my coat pocket.  Every now and then I'll pull it out, put it to my nose, close my eyes and inhale deeply.  Oh how I love that smell.  These trees can grow 12 to 18 inches per season, but they require a lot of water.  People seem to have it in their heads that Christmas tree farms are huge money makers.  We will make enough to pay the property taxes and the expenses with maybe a little bit left over; for us it's more of a hobby and a way to keep the trees growing on this land.


We spent Monday and Tuesday in Spokane and the drive was spectacular.  Hundreds of miles of wheat farms lie between the city and my home, with only a handful of small towns between.   It is beautiful any time of the year, but especially at this time when the wheat fields are blanketed in snow.  The pictures say it all.



A wheat farm in contrast.  The first, taken in August; the latter, in December.

As always, lots of blue, blue skies.  :)  Gotta love those blue skies.

Sunday, December 11, 2005

Easy -- Week #30

Easy -- like Sunday morning!

Winter can bring on some extreme weather in many regions around the world. Here in Idaho it is 20 degrees outside and an icy blanket of frost blankets the frozen ground. Looking out my window at this frosty landscape got me thinking.

Tell me...

What is the most extreme place you have ever visited?

Of all the places I have visited in my life, the memories of driving through Death Valley in California stay with me, even 40 years later. It was during a family vacation, and I don't recall exactly where it was we were heading, I just remember seeing the barren landscape whizzing by the car window and hearing my parents talking about the trials of early settlers and pioneers who ended up traveling across the land during the days of the gold rush. It was so hot we had to rent an air conditioner that mounted on the passenger window of the car; it was not advisable to use the cars air conditioner because the danger of overheating the engine posed a threat to our safety. In those days, very few people traveled through Death Valley and had the engine overheated we could have been stranded in the 120 plus degree heat for hours.

It was so hot that step-dad stopped long enough for us to stick our hands out the window and I remember feeling like my hand was literally on fire!  Sitting there, I imagined what it would be like if the car stalled and refused to start and  I feared we might be stuck there in the broiling heat for days!  I think we all feared that; because when my step-dad put the car back into drive and the vehicle lurched forward, I could feel the profound sense of relief overcome every member of my family.  We were all very glad to be moving through that desert once again.

Graphic by Pats Web Graphics

Answers to Easy -- Week #29

With busy days filled with holiday activities, few of us have much time for anything.  We are all so busy.  Had only one and one-half responses to last weeks question, and I'm debating putting the Easy question on hiatus until after the new year.  I'll try one more and if interest is minimal, then I'll put the questions off until January.

Last weeks question coincided with two birthdays in Linda's family and she wrote about them >here<.

Robin been busy too, but included a photo of her beloved grandfather in her entry >here<.

Graphic by Pat's Web Graphics

Thursday, December 8, 2005

The Fiver 12.9.05


Let's play!!!  Time for Robin's game.  Click >here< to play along too.  Come on, you know you want to!

Today, er...tonight's theme is Jingle jangle jingle...all things that jingle.

1.  Did you ever wear jingle bells on your shoes when you were a kid? 

Oh yes...of course!  My older sister Lyn and I thought it was a special treat to wear bells on our shoes, but we were only allowed to do it at Christmas time. 

2.  Thinking about tv you have a favorite jingle?  Something that when you see it sticks in your head all day?

Lately, the new Pilsbury ad for Cresent rolls "You've got possibilities..." keeps playing in my head.

3.  Gotta little change in your pocket going jingle, jingle, jing?  Do you carry change in your pocket?  Do you toss it in a can when you get home for a rainy day?  Have you dropped any in the Salvation Army bucket yet this year?

Change usually doesn't stay in my pocket.  I empty my coin purse/pockets every night (well...almost every night) into a large container, saving away for another day.

4.  When you sing Jingle Bells do you sing the nice version or the one where Batman smells and Robin laid an egg?  Hey...for the record I DO NOT Lay eggs.

Original...all the way!

5.  Take a picture of something jingly...and old lady boobs don't count. Could be a bell...a wind creative. Post it when you are done. If you don't have the ability to take a pic, tell us about something jingly in your home.

Well, I'm taking the easy route on this one.  I have a collection of silver bells which I hang over our bar at Christmas.


Easy - Week #29

It's not too late to answer the question this week! Click >here< for the original entry.





Graphic by Pat's Web Graphics

Tuesday, December 6, 2005

Winter Comes...

What is it about snow that brings out the child in us?

Saturday morning it started to snow while Sam put the Christmas lights on the house and I set up shop for the anticipated tree shoppers.  Christmas songs played on the tabletop CD player as a light snow began to fall.  Soon I found myself standing in the front yard,...arms stretched out,, head flung back.  Earthbound feathery flakes drifted from the sky, landing on my nose, cheeks, and...I couldn't resist tongue.  I'm talking BIG feathery snow flakes.  All this while Ella Fitzgerald sang, "Let It Snow."  How apropos.

In no time at all the snow transformed the Christmas tree farm into a winter wonderland, adding that extra seasonal element.  I cranked up the Christmas music to the delight of the customers.  Found myself dodging many well-placed snow balls, and not all those thrown were by the hands of children.  Several were thrown by my bosses' husband.  They purchased a 15 foot concolor fir, which weighed a ton!  It took four of us to get it in the pick up; the guys were at the base of the tree, my boss in the middle and I at the top of the tree.  When I lifted my end it wouldn't budge from the ground.  So I thought...okay, I must be standing on some of the branches.  Check my feet,, no branches are trapped beneath the shoes.  Try again.  Several grunts later we finally hoisted the heavy evergreen into the bed of the pick up.  Whew!  That was one heavy tree!

Many of the trees experienced quite a growth spurt this year.  One tree in particular always gets my attention when I walk past it.  I've named this one my 'Whoville' tree.  I can just see Cindy Lou Who standing next to it.  It will be interesting to see if the width of the tree catches up withthe height.  Personally, I've never seen anything like it.

Business is slowlypicking up on the tree farm.  This coming weekend I doubt I'll have time to do anything but help customer and crash at the end of the day.  I've had very little time for writing or journal hopping; which is disappointing for me but there is so much to do.  In the past week I've managed to make about 30 hand made Christmas cards for family and close friends.  Now I just need to get them addressed and in the mail.

The Christmas Star is lit on the hillside; it's nice to know some things never change.  No one here in the valley ever complains about that star and seeing it shining at night, just as it has since my first winter here in 1972, is a peaceful reminder that while life may shift certain values and traditions will stand the test of time.  And this year, the 'Winter Spirit' display is enormous!  I think the number of lights doubled this year.  I'm hoping to have the time to take a few pictures of the display to post in this journal.

In the mean time, Allie is doing her best to get into the spirit of things.  She loves her festive collar cover, but not the reindeer antlers.

Her enthusiasm is infectious.   

Background by Pat's Web Graphics

Sunday, December 4, 2005

The 5-er, December 2, 2005

1.  Where is the furthest you have traveled for Christmas and will you be traveling this year?

The furthest I ever traveled for Christmas was from Sacramento to Los Angeles, over 20 years ago.  This year the celebrations are at my home, so I'll be staying right here.

2.  Do you celebrate any other holiday this month? Kwanza? Chanukah? Festivus?

No other holiday per se, but December 21 has much significance.  On that day in 1985 I moved from Sacramento back to my home town, and exactly six years later on that same day, I met Sam, so that date is a big on in our life.

3. Who is the hardest person to shop for on your Christmas list and why do you think they are so hard to buy for?

The hardest person to shop for are Sam's daughters.  Not so much because they are difficult to shop for, but more because each year we buy them jammies, which they open on Christmas Eve.  They both like a particular kind, and the stores just don't stock them like they once did.

4. How old were you when you stopped believing in Santa? Extra credit if you have a picture of you with Santa!

Stopped?  Hmmm, I never stopped believing.  I'll be back to post  a pic of me and Santa.  Customers have just arrived at the Christmas tree lot and I need to help them.

5. Fill in the blank;   For me Christmas just wouldn't be the same without _______?

Christmas just wouldn't be the same without Sam.  I've celebrated so many with him and his family now it has become a part of my life.  Christmas wouldn't be the same without the spirit of the season.  I love wishing people a 'Merry Christmas' both vocally and in my cards.  For me, those words always come with a smile.

The 5-er is a weekly Q & A, originated by Robin of These Are The Days of Our Lives.  I encourage you to play along, so click >here<.

Easy - Week #29 Sunday morning.

Tell me...

What qualities do you remember about a grandparent or an older member of your family that stand out in your memories about them?

My grandpa Ab was a simple man who lived by simple means.  Born the fourth child of pioneers in a family of nine children, he learned early on the ways of living off the earth.  I can remember with clarity days of my early years eating corn on the cob at his table, and the excitement in his eyes as he watched me, delighted in his granddaughters love for his home grown corn.  My adult memories of him always take me back to a simpler time of Sunday afternoons spent in his living room, listening as he spoke of life with his siblings and parents.  They were homesteaders surviving in the wilderness with only a canvas tent to cover their heads and an earthen floor beneath them.

I have many recollections of him and he never spoke of the contrast between the values of his generation and mine, preferring to focus his attention on what made me and my cousins smile and laugh.  He found many ways to endear himself to his grandchildren, and taught all of us his love for earth's bounty.  In his later years he taught himself how to make wine from grapes and berries.  At the local county fair his elder berry wine was a favorite, consistently taking first place among all the many entrants.  Unfortunately, grandpa's wine making abilities did not improve with his age and I can recall more than one occasion where I opened one of his bottles only to find the wine had taken on a vinegar like quality.  He rode a motorcycle into his late 80s, and only quit doing so when my father and uncle voiced concern for his safety.  In reflection, I realize his lifestyle must have agreed with him because he never spent one day in a elderly care facility; and he died peacefully at the age of 88 in the comforts of his own home, sitting in his favorite chair.

Okay, now it's your turn.  Go to your journal and share your stories, then come back here and leave me a link to your entry.  Include a photo if you have one.  I'll post the responses next Saturday, and then start it over on Sunday.


~~Cherish the moment, for moments are fleeting.~~ 

Saturday, December 3, 2005

Answers to Easy - Week #28

Everyone responded to my question in the comments of the original journal entry.  You can see their responses >here<.  Next question will be posted tomorrow morning, after baby D's baptism in the morning. 

Thursday, December 1, 2005

Your Monday Photo Shoot: The Letter G

John Scalzi's getting lexographic for this week's Photo Shoot:

Your Monday Photo Shoot: Snap a picture of something beginning with the letter "G." Because I don't think the letter "G" gets nearly as much attention as it should.

Sam and I dined on a great meal last night.  My favorite seafood.  Crab.  Sweet, tasty, delicous crab, complemented with wine.  Yum-O!

Good eats.  A bit of a stretch, I know.  But good food, is good food.



If you want to play, click >here<

Wednesday, November 30, 2005

Easy reminder

It's not too late to answer the Easy -- like Sunday morning, question of the week.  Click >here< for the entry.




Sunday, November 27, 2005

Our First Season

Our first weekend selling Christmas trees is now over.   Not a bad start.  We sold 10 trees ranging in height from 4 feet to 15 feet; the 15 footer was for a local church.  I did another walk about to inventory the tags and counted 14, even after several people came to pick up trees they previously tagged.

Yesterday was the busiest.  Didn't have a steady stream of customers, but had an interesting mix of people.  One family brought their German foreign exchange student with them.  I learned in Germany only the adults go out in search of the Christmas tree, and while the children sleep, the adults bring the tree into the house and decorate it.  The next morning the children are told the tree was brought and decorated by angels.  :)   That's pretty cool.  The exchange student was delighted to take part in her host family's tradition; watching her face I got the sense she felt honored to participate.  Such are the sweet moments of life!

I really got a kick out of watching and listening to the children as they covorted around the trees.  Oh, to tap their energy and enthusiasm!  It really put me into the spirit of the season, being around that youthful energy so alive and excited about the experience of finding the family Christmas tree. One little boy was extremely excited to find his Christmas tree growing just a few blocks away from his home.  From the mouths of babes.

Easy - Week #28

Easy, like Sunday morning!

We watched CMT Crossroads last night and had the pleasure of experiencing Lionel Ritchie sing this song with Kenny Rogers!  What a treat and a most excellent show.  Throughout the song, I was grinning as I pondered between two different questions for today.  And my mind is made up.

As always, post your answer in your journal, then come back here and leave me a link in the comments.  I'll post the answers next weekend and then we'll start all over again.

Tell me...

If you dropped a penny from your pocket or purse, would you stop to pick it up, and why?

Yes, both Sam and I will pick up a penny if we dropped it.  For me, it goes back to Ben Franklin's belief of, 'A penny saved is a penny earned.'  I save all my change; as I get coins back from purchases, they go into a giant container.  Ka-ching, ka-ching.  I love that sound.  When I have enough saved, I cart it to the nearest CoinStar machine and cash it in.  It adds up pretty fast.  Last time I did, I walked out with $167, which took me maybe a year to accumulate.  Comes in handy when you need a little cash. 

Saturday, November 26, 2005

Answers to Easy Week #27

Easy Week #27 -

Here are the responses to the November 20th, Easy--Like Sunday Morning question.  Thank you to all who participated and to Kelly for pointing her readers in my direction.

I asked:  When you were growing up, what did you want to be as an adult and is that what you are doing now or did your ambitions change?

Lisa dreamed of helping people through work in the ministry, and now as a business owner she puts people to work.

Christy thought about becoming a doctor and is now Dr. Mom.

Linda kept her options open, and put her heart into being a mom.

Kelly wanted orbit the earth, and her daughter Grace thinks she's out of this world.

The following participated in the comment section of the original entry.
Barry dreamed of flying Spitfires to defeat the luftwaffe, and now he writes with a Vengeance.
Karen wanted to be a cop, and is now on a spiritual quest.
Robin wanted to be an archeologist, but found greater treasure in her family.

Again, thank you everyone for playing.  Tomorrow I will post another probing question.

Friday, November 25, 2005

The Fiver -- Week #2

Very cool graphic Robert!  Great job.


1. Do you already have your Christmas tree up? If so when did you put it up? If not when will you put it up?

No tree yet.  It will probably be another week before we walk across the street to cut them.  Today I was thinking I need to pick out the two trees for the house.  We sold our first tree off the lot today!  And I did a brief walk about the lot and counted twelve trees already tagged.  Tagged trees are those that have been selected for cutting by someone who will return at a later date to pick up.


2. Do you have any particular theme when it comes to decorating your tree? Maybe you do all Disney ornaments? Only blue lights?  Tell us how you decorate your tree. Kudos if you have a picture and post it.

Our upstairs tree is done all in all white lights with gold and maroon bulb ornaments.  Downstairs is all white lights Hallmark Keepsakes and other ornaments I've collected over the years.


3.  What is your all time favorite ornament? Only one.  Kudos again if you have a picture and post it. 

My all time favorite ornamentis the very first ornament anyone ever purchased just for me.  Itwas a gift from my Dad given to me in 1981, the year we were reunited.


4. How many stockings do you hang and are any of them for pets? And...where do you hang them?  (Not everyone has a fireplace)

We hang three stockings on the mantle; two are Amy and Kari's and one is for Miss Kitty.  Although this year, we'll need to hang another for baby D.  Guess I better get busy on that project.

5.  Tell us about one of your Christmas traditions.

Every year on Christmas Eve we celebrate the holiday with Sam's family at our house.  Sam and I spend all day preparing a feast; sweet and sour meatballs, hot wings, chips and dips, veggies, deli meats and's quite a spread.  We spend the evening singing songs, sharing stories, and watching the children open their gifts.  It's great fun and by the time every one leaves their hearts are light, their bellies are full and they are ready for a visit from Santa.

Wednesday, November 23, 2005

From my home to yours!

Graphic courtesy of PrintMaster 12

Better Living Through Chemistry

Went to the doc this morning; follow-up visit for a nagging shoulder.  Told the doc about the dark cloud that's been hanging around me.  Question and answer begins, followed by a serious discussion.  I walk out with medication.

:) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :)

Why didn't I do that sooner?


~~Women and cats will always do what they want.  Men and dogs should just get used to it.~~

Tuesday, November 22, 2005

What's In a Name? Part Duex

Did you know that rearranging the letters of "George Bush" gives "He bugs Gore", "Madonna Louise Ciccone" gives "Occasional nude income" and "William Shakespeare", "I am a weakish speller"??!

Anagram fun with names...

John Smith = Shh! Not. Jim.
Jane Doe = One jade.

Now, for people I know...(omitting their names, out of respect)

Mine = Anxious, cooled.
Female 1 = Thereby alarming. (yep)
Female 2 = Crankily. Ox. (definitely)
Female 3 = Irrate nicest human. (sometimes)
Female 4 = Jolly.  Keen than an amen. (???)
Female 5 = Rub dozier groin. (uh huh)
Male 1 = Gas coy Marx.  (okay)
Male 2 = Jahn hole  (pretty darn close)
Male 3 = Not curve tit. (hmmmm)
Male 4 = Wet, mutant he. (we won't tell)
Male 5 = A slimy jeer. (don't think so)


My hometown = Witty, nice fools.  (whole lotta truth there)

Go...try it yourself.  click >here

Monday, November 21, 2005

Misty morning Monday

Our back yard shrouded in a fine morning mist.

Even as the tree once grew as a single trunk, so the trunk has split; and yet the tree grows on.  Look and you will find its roots firmly planted in the place it all began.

This portion of this entry is a bit of an addendum, on Tuesday.  I selected the above photo yesterday because of its I see it as symbolic.  My thoughts are scattered at times, one of the many side-effects of my job, and aging, I suppose.  Yesterday as I stared at that photo I knew I wanted to place it in my journal as a visual statement of my local weather.  Today, through these same eyes, I see it now as a visual statement of something bigger--my world.


The following is taken from the blog of Judith Heartsong -


Monday, November 21, 2005

we are family........... (hearing the version from The Bird Cage in my head)

The last week and all its upheaval has been disconcerting. AOL turning a blind eye and a deaf ear to paying customers who have written in ad-free journals for years now has really put a spotlight on corporate greed and a machine that will roll over anything in its path on the way to the all-mighty dollar.

The bigger concern however is that a few people in our own journals have taken the opportunity to fling insults and open wounds in a totally unnecessary way when people are already hurting so much at being displaced or unable to write. Some journalers have chosen to stay, some have chosen to go.... and I support everyone in the decisions they have made. That is what this community has always been about, support and a warm place to land.

What needs to be said at this point is that it does not matter who hosts our blogs. It does not matter. We are one community, one ship of souls that came together in the writing and sharing to build something very special in this vast space on the internet. Our connections need never suffer because of where we write

(reprinted with Judi's permission)


~~The world is sown with good, but unless I turn my glad thoughts into practical living and till my own field, I cannot reap a kernel of the good.  -Helen Keller~~

~~When we discover the still, quiet place that lies within each of us, we can see it as a base to untangle ourselves from the doubt, indecision,ill health, guilt and other forms of old programming that result in confused and defused actions. -Hallie Iglehart~~




Graphic courtesy of Print Master 12

Sunday, November 20, 2005

Weekend Assignment #86 - Thankfully Remembered

Weekend Assignment #86: Who are you thankful for -- who you won't be able to spend this Thanksgiving with? This is a chance to tell us about the people you care about who will be far away from you this holiday, or who have passed on but remain in your heart.

Extra Credit: Pumpkin pie vs. pecan pie -- which do you choose for Thanksgiving dessert?

My mother, sisters, and my father.  I am thankful for the years I had with them.  My mother and father are gone; my sisters are alive, but spread across the country.  It's been 28 years since I shared Thanksgiving with my mother and sisters, and 8 years since the last Thanksgiving with my dad.  I spent that holiday at his bedside in the hospital, knowing full well it would be our last holiday together.  Given a choice between spending the day with my dad, or my husband's family, in my mind there was no other place I wanted to be.  Dad died three days later, on Sunday.  I will never regret my decision to stay by his side that day.  Someday, when Sam and I retire I hope to have the opportunity once again to spend Thanksgiving with each of my sisters.

Extra credit:  Pumpkin pie, hands down.  I love pumpkin pie.  I do love pecans, but not pecan pie.  Pie filling should be soft and creamy, not crunchy.  But that's just me. 

If you want to participate in this click >here<

Easy -- #27

Kelly (In My Opinion) and I were 'chatting' the other day and I asked her why she stopped doing her Sunday Easy entries.   She told me why and then she suggested that I take over, giving me her blessing to carry on her idea.  So, I'll give it a go. 

EASY -- Like Sunday morning!

Here's my question of the week.  Answer it in your journal and come back here and leave me a link in the comments.  I'll post your links next weekend and we'll start over again next Sunday.

Tell me.....

When you were growing up, what did you want to be as an adult and is that what you are doing now or did your ambitions change?

Growing up, I wanted to be a jockey.  I had a love affair with horses that lingers to this day.  I followed everything that had to do with horses and dreamed of being a jockey, until my early teens when my height and weight made it obvious that I had exceeded the reasonable size for a jockey.  Now, I'm doing the one thing I never dreamed I'd be doing, accounting.  I hated math in school, preferring to spend my time on creative writing and art. These days I write and dabble in photography for fun in my spare time; which worked out for the best, as I'd probably starve if I had to rely on either as a means to earn a living. :)

Those in your own backyard

As we prepare to gather at the table with our loved ones to celebrate our blessings, please remember those less fortunate than us.  This has been a year of giving; many of us have dug deep into our pockets to help thousands of disaster victims, across the country, and around the world.
Now with the holiday season beginning, please don't over look the need for giving in your own community.  Perhaps your community has a food bank, Salvation Army, YWCA, YMCA, or any number of social welfare organizations helping others.  There are many.  Here are just a couple I found today.
America's Second Harvest: The nations food bank network- provides a way to search for your local food bank or rescue organization.  Results for searching by state provide statistics such as poverty rate, child poverty rate, and unemployment rate.
Food Network - have a cook on your gift list?  Looking for the gift that keeps on giving?  Food Network published Food Network Favorites: recipes from our all-star chefsProceeds from the sale go toward each chef's favorite charity, including America's Second Harvest, as well.
Be a light in someone's life.  Sometimes all they need is a little break, and to know people care.

Friday Five - Week #1

Robin (These Are The Days of Our Lives) started a weekly question and answer entry in her journal.  The  Official Friday Five begins now!

* Ooops! That title is about...Five Fun Questions for the week? Fun Five? FREAKIN A' Five? Fiddlesticks I thought I had an original idea Five? Help me name it.

Needing a's about Five For Friday.  Although I do like your Freakin' A' Five.  You should use that one.

1.  What is the one thing on your Thanksgiving table that you will NOT eat?

Brussel sprouts.  Too bitter.  No amount of cheese or white sauce will ever improve their taste.

2.  Did you ever play in a pile of leaves as a kid? If so do you have a picture of you or someone you know playing in the fall leaves? Post it if you do!

Yes, I did.  But no, I don't have a picture of either.

3. When you think of Fall what are the three things that come to mind?

Harvest moon, golden leaves, hot cocoa with peppermint Schnapps.

 4. When was the last time you had pumpkin pie? Was it last year or have you already had some this year?

Does pumpkin bourbon cheesecake count?  If so, two days ago when I made one for work.  Yummers!!!!!  If no, then last Thanksgiving. 

5. Tell us something really nice about the last person you read an email from.

The last email I read was from Jimmy (StupidSheetGuy).  On the surface Jimmy may seem like a bit of a grouch.  I believe he is truly a warm and caring individual who, like so many of us, gets fed up with self-centered people who do not practice common courtesy, are clue less about civility, and wouldn't give a care if someone asked them to.  Jimmy's more vocal about it than others are, because he cares about humanity.  He's the genuine article, through and through, and best of all he has the greatest sense of humor.  He pokes fun at the lemmings and he ALWAYS makes me laugh.  ALWAYS.


If you want to participate too, click >here<.  

Wednesday, November 16, 2005

Gone to the Moon

"Never go to bed angry.  Stay up and fight."  ~Phyllis Diller

These days it's hard to be proactive in a reactive world.

Last night I got caught up in the heat of the moment and I did the knee-jerk thing, threatening to make my journal private, and possibly drop AOL, when only a few months ago I promised to leave my journal public.  I don't like to eat my own words and I've had 24 hours to step back and sort my thoughts.  I'm staying.  It's gonna take a lot more than some unwanted ads hovering over my head to push me out the door.

This morning as I got ready for work, thinking about J-Land, a song began to play on the oldies radio station.  The song, 'Everyone's Gone to the Moon' struck a chord with me.  The words caused me to stop and listen.  It just seemed to fit into that point of time.  Ironically, forty years ago in November 1965, 'Everyone's Gone to the Moon' was in the top 20 of the music charts.

I once wrote that I keep this journal to one person at a time.  I believe one person can make a difference in another persons life; I know this because I have done so, here at J-Land.  And the other person has thanked me on several occasions for being here, and for reaching out when she needed a friend.  That's pretty powerful stuff and it's what I'm all about.  If there was any chance that those ads would prevent her from reaching me, well now that would be an entirely different matter altogether.

I'm fed up about a lot ofthings, and truth be told there are many issues to get upset about: child abuse, domestic violence, substance abuse, hate crimes, poverty, homelessness; in the grand scheme of things AOL banner advertising ranks pretty low on my list of social priorities and injustices.  I'm not happy about it, I've said so and those are words etched in stone.

Just the other day I wrote about not allowing anger to push reason out of our heads and I could never live with myself if I allowed my anger to cause me to lose my perspective.  I must and I will honor my beliefs and my words...they are my truth.

As I grow older, I care less about what people think and more about what people do.  So, I'm not going to bed angry.  I'm gonna stay up and fight.

Everyone's Gone To The Moon
Johnathan King

(Words and Music by Kenneth King)

Streets full of people, all alone
Roads full of houses never home
Church full of singing out of tune
Everyone's gone to the moon

Eyes full of sorrow, never wet
Hands full of money, all in debt
Sun coming out in the middle of June
Everyone's gone to the moon

Long time ago
Life had begun
Everyone went to the sun

Hearts full of motors painted green
Mouths full of chocolate-covered cream
Arms that can only lift a spoon
Everyone's gone to the moon

Everyone's gone to the moon
Everyone's gone to the moon

Next stop...the Twilight Zone

First, this entry is coming by way of Internet Explorer.  Just like last nights entry did.  I logged on to AOL this morning, typed my new entry and just like last night, I got an error message every time I click on 'Save.'  This is not the way to run a fee-based service. 

Did the earth suddenly shift on its axis?  During the staff meeting Monday I asked that question, in jest.  Now I'm beginning to wonder...

I know the banner ads are there, yet it seems some people do not see them.  I noticed comments to that effect posted to John Scalzi's blog yesterday.  Alas, here above the Blue Skies I do see an ad.  No point in mentioning whose ad and perpetuating their name.

Woke up this morning to a rather interesting horoscope. 

Horoscope for: Wednesday, November 16, 2005

You are not as adversely affected by the weird energies floating around today. Everyone else may have a difficult time making sense of what's happening, but you just keep moving your projects along toward completion. Even if you are determined to stay on track, be open to unexpected changes for the sake of growth.

Okay, don't know about the affected part but I'm always receptive to the possibility of growth.  Change is constant.  This could fit either work, or personal as there are many changes a foot everywhere.  And as I sit here typing this I'm wondering if this entry will post when I click the 'Save' button.  Last night's entry came by way of Internet Explorer; I had to exit AOL and launch IE in order to post an entry to my AOL journal.  What a pain. 

On the positive side, I do like the new Spell Check feature.  That was a move in the right direction.  But it does not make up for the fact that I have to post journal entries by way of IE.

For several months I have considered starting another journal elsewhere because AOL isn't the only game in town.  I like it here and have invested a great deal of time into this journal, and maybe someday my granddaughter will read the words I wrote around the time of her birth.  And maybe she won't.  I love writing, I need to write and if my words make someone's day a little better, then I will have accomplished what I set out to do.  They say haste makes waste and so it is true.  For now the only change I plan to make is the removal of the side bar counter.  I never was into popularity contests anyway.

What I am into is service delivery and AOL falls short in that category.  Having worked in the software industry I have a keen sense of what drives these firms to operate the way they do.  The bottom line.  And I'm guessing the stockholders gave AOL managers a directive: improve the bottom line or else.  Find a way and just do it.  Business is business and love is shit.  That's just the way of the world.  Sooner or later all those free journal places will make a change when they start feeling the pinch of growing pains.

Money always talks, and bullshit always walks.  That, from this peace loving Taurus.  Go figure.


Tuesday, November 15, 2005

I needed a bone to chew on...

While I echo the sentiment against the intrusion of these banners at the top of everyone's journals...I have a this to add.

Clearly all our journals are drawing lots of traffic and hits, both within AOL and without; with each rotation of the visitor counters AOL managers must have been wringing their hands in eager anticipation of possible revenue streams, ripe for the plucking. 

Yes, I do have links to both not-for-profit and for-profit websites on my sidebar.  I have my reasons for making those inclusions and did so with a clear conscience as no one is paying me for those links.  Some are local small businesses I wish to spotlight, as I live in an extremely economically challenged area.  Others are charitable organizations close to my heart.  If including these links to enterprises in my sidebar gave AOL management the impression that I wouldn't mind having some corporate giant's moniker hanging over my header, well then let me make this perfectly clear.  I do mind.  I mind very much.

However, I seriously doubt that anyone who takes the time to visit my journal will be distracted from their purpose by a mortgage ad or other financial frivolity flashing across the screen.  I think people are smart enough to know how to use the scroll bar to make those annoying banners disappear from their view.

Having said that, AOL would be wise to find another way to promote America's corporate economy.  I do my best to help out in that arena, but I draw the line at having my personal space exploited in this manner.

If the ads are still here in seven days, I will make my journal private.  If the ads do not go away permanently by December 1, I have no problem dumping AOL and cancelling my subscription.  I did it before, I can do it again.

So much for AOL's latest televison campaign.  Guess they just forgot to mention the users won't be protected from AOL.

Monday, November 14, 2005

Mail order wisdom

Who knew wisdom could be found inside a catalog.  Picked up my slog of catalogs in my post office box today...and found two unexpected tidbits of wisdom in the new Wind & Weather catalog.  I was delighted.

ABCs of Life

Accept differences.  Be kind.  Count your blessings.  Dream.  Express thanks.  Forgive.  Give freely.  Harm no one.  Imagine more.  Jettison anger.  Keep confidences.  Love truly.  Master something.  Nurture hope.  Open your mind.  Pack lightly.  Quell rumours.  Reciprocate.  Seek wisdom.  Touch hearts.  Understand.  Value truth.  Win graciously.  Xeriscape.  Yearn for peace.  Zealously support a worthy cause.

And just for all us Baby Boomers...

ABCs of Aging

Avoid collagen.  Bloom late.  Celebrate.  Dance at weddingsEat more chocolate.  Fall in love again.   Go grey.  Hold hands.  Inspire.  Jettison grudges.  Kiss like you mean it.  Laugh.  Mend fences.  Nurture friendships.  Open doors.  Perspire with aplomb.  Quit whining.  Rekindle romance.  Spoil babies.  Teach someone to read.  Upset convention.  Volunteer.  Wear red.  eXpect joy.  Yield gracefully.  Zing.

Words of wisdom.

Okay, I'm getting started on this right away...and starting with 'Eat more chocolate.'  I hear some Ghiradelli's sitting on the fridge calling my name....

But...perspire with aplomb?

And speaking of baby boomer's...Sharon posted this yesterday and it's much too good to pass up.  click >here< and prepare yourself. 

Your Monday Photo Shoot: Landmarks

Time to look through your photos, because this photo shoot is a bit of a challenge:

Your Monday Photo Shoot: Display a picture you're taken of a famous man-made landmark. Significant buildings, big statues, great walls (particularly in China) -- it people put it together, it counts.

Well, I had to go back through the years...1998 to be exact, in order to find one that fit this challenge.  If you've ever visited Mt. Rushmore, you probably made the drive up the mountain road to the site.  Just before you round the final corner that leads to the entrance, if you turn around and look out your back window, this is what you'll see...George that is, not necessarily the goat.  I like this point of view because it shows a different side of this famous face looming over the rock from which it came.  The only reason why I caught this view was because mountain goats where walking along the road side and completely stopped the traffic.

Cute little guy isn't a shaggy kind of way.


~~One way to feel the holiness of something is to hear its inner resonance, the more-than-personal elements sounding-vibrating through. --M. C. Richards~~


Can You Really Count On These Counters?

It's one of the questions I always ask myself.  Are the counters included in these journals really accurate?  I'm not convinced.

There are journals that I know receive a lot of traffic.  Every day there have handfuls of comments posted, yet the counter barely moves.  What's up with that? 

Sunday, November 13, 2005

Someone's not in the kitchen with Dona

This entry is for Alphawoman1.
Contrary to popular belief, I am not a domestic goddess.
No siree.  Far from it.
Okay, so there is evidence that every now and then I venture into the kitchen and emerge with homemade goodies.
But, truth be told, I really don't shine in the kitchen.  The first time I made jelly by myself, I almost burned down the house and ruined a brand new stove.  Just the year before I had learned how to make grape jelly at the home of my friend, Bona.  And she warned me, more than once, don't try to make jelly by yourself.  You should always have someone helping, especially once the fruit, sugar, and water mixture starts boiling.
So one fall evening a couple of years ago I wanted to make some more grape jelly for Christmas gifts.  Bona was supposed to help, but her back was flaring up and she was down for the day.  Same for Sam, who had put in a doubly full day at work and was physically drained.  Fresh grapes are only fresh for a short time, and I had picked these grapes days before, so I decided not to wait any longer.  I gathered all the necessary tools and ingredients and got cookin'.
I turned the solid grapes into liquid, and ended up with about 12 cups of juice.  Into the pot goes 8 cups of juice and 5 cups of sugar (shock!  yes, 5 cups).  Set heat to high and wait for mixture to boil.
They say a watched pot never boils.  Oh, it does.  The second you take your eyes off it.
I'm keeping one eye on the mixture while I get the jars ready to receive the hot liquid.  The jelly pot is close to boiling when I turned my back just long enough to line up some of the jars so I can begin to spoon the jelly into them.  Both my hands are full of glass jars when out of the corner of my eye I see the liquid level in the pot quickly rise to the top...and begin to spill over.  In horror I put the jars down on the counter, shut off the burner and remove the pot from the heat, after grabbing two pot holders, of course.  Safety first, you know.  Too late.  Our stove is electric, not gas, and is one of those solid surface types that take forever and a day to cool down after the heat element is turned off.
The pot is no longer into a rolling boil, but now smoke is billowing...quite profusely I might the stove top.  Thick, grey sugary sweet smoke.  SHIT!  Switch on the overhead exhaust fan.  Forget trying to wipe the sugary mess off the stove, the heat has now crystalized the sugar and bonded it to the stovetop, which is still pretty hot and doing a mighty fine job of filling the kitchen with smoke.  SHIT!  Run around the kitchen, opening every window and the door.  The stove is still smoking and the exhaust fan isn't working.  Visions of fire fighters rushing into my home armed with axes and fire hoses immediately come to mind.  This would be an appropriate time to panic before the smoke detectors start going off.
Run around the house, calling out to the hubby who is downstairs in the family room.  Continue to open doors and all available windows...continue to panic.  The living room is now filling up with smoke.
It's a rather eerie feeling to open the front door of your home and literally watch thick, grey smoke being sucked outside.  A tad unsettling as well.
Walk back to the kitchen and banish the thought of trying to cover up my little faux pas.  I'll never get away with hiding the evidence now.  Busted!  The look on Sam's face when he walked into the kitchen was....well, in a word, indescribable.  And I won't repeat what he said.  I've choosen to forget.
An hour later, the smoke finally cleared.  Two hours later Sam finished scraping the burned grape syrup off the brand new stove top.  That was my version of 'How to break in a new appliance.'  And a darn good hootin' I job did of that if I may say so!
When all was said and done, I called Bona, knowing she could use a good laugh.
To this day I can't stand in front of that stove and watch something boil without thinking back to that day.
I now own a very tall stock pot which I use to make my jelly in and I never fill it more than one-quarter full.  The jars get set up before I make the jelly mixture.  And to look at the stove, you'd never know what happened three years ago.  Not a trace of burned sugar remains.
What happened to that batch of jelly?  Well, it became grape syrup; it never got the chance to become jelly.  A lot of work goes into turning solid grapes into juice and I wasn't about to toss all that work down the drain.  Pissed as I was at myself, I just couldn't throw that stupid stuff away.
Looking back, I probably should have and written it off as an offering to appease the kitchen muse.

Breezin' Through My Mind

Everyday I drive by a flag in the middle of a rose garden.  Everyday I see the flag and the rose bushes, and yet most of the time, I never see them.  It's as if, having driven by so many times, these things are either burned into my conscience so I no longer 'notice' them, or I'm so preoccupied with getting to point B that I no longer realize they exist.

The other day on my drive back to the office, the wind was blowing and I had to stop for traffic.  A fierce gust caused the flag to unfurl completely, whipping the immense fabric open to it's full glory.  After months of summer air, dense and still, the flag suddenly came to life.  It took my breath away.  How is it that I can drive by something everyday, hundreds of times, and yet totally miss it?

I constantly remind myself to stop each day and take note of the little things.  There are days when I feel completely surrounded by the little things that make life so magical.  Days when I feel fortunate, lucky to be alive.  Moments in a lifetime of days I will always remember.  And then, it seems I can go for weeks without ever noticing anything.  Everything just blurs by in a continuous span of lost time.  Time I know occurred filled with moments I don't remember.  As if a light was turned off somewhere, shutting down my sense of being, unplugging my sense of wonder.

What happens during those moments when I feel like I'm just going through the motions, living, alive, yet seeing nothing?  Are those the times when I allow the stress and strain to take over?  It feels that way.  I am amazed that I can do something everyday, over and over, and totally miss it.  Then turn around the next day and see once again.  Everyday I park in front of a massive tree, but I never noticed the tree.  Until the day the wind blew the flag.  Everyday I drive by another tree, a huge tree, a Swiss Family Robinson tree, yet I never paid much attention to it until that day.  I always saw the tree, but I really did not notice it.

I just realized the why.  It's my camera.  On those days when I carry my camera with me, my eyes are open, my senses are keen.  And the days when I leave my camera at home, are just another blur.  Not always, but it seems that way.  I remember with acute recollection the moments of days when I have my digital eyes with me, and the days without my camera are lost like bits of dust in the dark.

When I take my camera, when I take a picture, there is  more going on than just my eyes peering into a viewfinder.  Looking through the lens opens my perspective on what I see, and connecting those images with thoughts...words...opens my eyes; aligning all that is good with beauty, and all that is right with wonder.

The magic of an everyday person, brought to life, through the lens of a simple camera

~~Have a vision big enough to be uncomfortable--not all dreams come easy.~~

~~We are all created to make a difference.~~

A Good Hair Day

"Today is a good day," the woman said as she walked through the hair salon.

There was something in the way she said it.  A calmness in her voice that pulled my attention to her.  Ev stopped cutting my hair momentarily and looked up as the woman sat down in the chair at the station next to us.  With a smile, Pam draped a shampoo cape around the woman.  "Oh?" she remarked as she cocked her head, eye brows raised in curious expectation.

"Yes," the woman smiled.  She looked up at Pam, then said, "Today my son is back on American soil."

With those words everything stopped.  She held our attention.  There were only four of us in the salon, but with her words I was taken by the sense that I would carry this moment all my life.  Ev dropped her arms to her side as I turned in the chair to face the mother, swallowing the lump I felt in my throat.  "You must be relieved," I heard Ev say.  "Does he get to stay home for the holidays?"

The mother turned to both of us.  She radiated with a glow; a peaceful serenity of total calm surrounded her.  "He's home to stay," she replied, her words floating in the air like the promise of a new day.

Pam asked the question we all formed in our minds.  "Where was he?"

"Iraq."  It was a simple one word response, filled with such emotion I wondered how many times she had said that word before, her voice then filled with uncertainty and a mother's fear.  The uncertainty of wondering how much longer, how many more times would she say that word.  The uncertainty was gone, replaced by pure joy.

For the next few minutes she shared her joy with us.  Through her words I learned.  Her son served in the National Guard, called to duty almost two years ago.  Now he was returning back to everything he left behind, his family, his home, and even his job.  His employer was holding his job for him.  I learned the most dangerous part of being in Iraq for the soldiers, is the trip home.  The soldiers do not fly out of Iraq, they must make a long journey across the country...a journey across open terrain in which they are vulnerable.  A journey that for some ends much too soon.

"That," she said, "is when many of them die.  On their way home."

As she calmly spoke my thoughts turned to them.  Silence followed.

It was an ordinary day that started like any other.  Normally I make my hair appointments late in the afternoon, after work.  But when Ev offered the lunch hour time slot, I took it.  I'm glad I did.

I am a creature of habit and while I don't always resist change, I thrive in the mundane and routine.  In the structure of that routine I find security.  Then one day, I changed the routine and did something differently, with a few second thoughts.  Now, I realize that change can bring us blessings.  I felt blessed to be there that moment.  It gave me the chance to witness first-hand one of the happy stories.  After months of hearing and reading so many negative accounts of this war, for me, this one moment helped to counter balance some of the negative.  Not all of it, by no means, but some of it.

The mother finished sharing her story with us, then eased her back into the chair as Pam lowered her head down to the sink.  The salon was quiet as Ev turned to me and lifted her hands back to my head.  I turned my thoughts inward, silently remembering all the news reports, all the numbers, all the anger.

It was the opening of a simple door, and a simple change in my schedule, that brought me to the moment.  A moment I never expected...a moment I will never forget.  Guess you could say it was a good hair day.

Moments ago, as I was preparing to save this entry, I heard the sound of a car door outside.  I looked up from the computer screen, out through the window and watched a young couple with a baby walk into the tree farm across the street.  For years I have watched families walk amid those trees.  Today I watched this young couple, undeterred by the blowing wind or cloudy skies, their baby carefully bundled against the cold, moving carefully between the trees, searching for and then selecting just the right tree.  Creating a tradition.  It is a time for traditions, old and new. 

Change, it seems, can be apowerful thing.  Sometimes change is good for the soul.


~~Create a new tradition this season; do something out of the ordinary!~~

~~Forgiveness is a choice to release the other person from the need to make them pay for what they did that caused harm.  Forgiveness is the key to restoration in a relationship.~~


Tuesday, November 8, 2005

Your Monday Photo Shoot: Before & After

Your Monday Photo Shoot: Do "Before and After" photos on any subject you like. The idea is to show change over a bit of time. Some easy ideas would be haircuts, cleaned-up rooms, kittens growing up into cats, and etc. And yes, this means you can dip into your collection of old photos (they certainly qualify as "before").

Feeling a bit like a copy cat, because I decided to use a tree for my before and after shots; the difference is where John's tree starts with lots of leaves and ends without any leaves, mine goes in reverse.  A lovely specimen Dogwood, seen first in full bloom last spring, or about six months ago; secondly, as it looks today.  If it seems as if the dogwood looks fuller, or lusher, in the after photos, your eyes are not deceiving you.  In the spring, dogwoods display only the delicate flowers with no leaves, which come on later.  So there is actually more foilage on the tree in the fall than there is in the spring.  The leaves start out bright green in late spring and turn bright red in the fall.  Talk about a transformation.

BEFORE - Dogwood, April 2005

AFTER - Dogwood, November 2005


~~Pause often and take deep breaths; it is good for the soul.~~

Terms of Endearment

I can not believe how much baby D has grown these past few months.  Sure both her parents are tall, as are both her granddaddies, but she has grown so much in this short time.  Grown may be an understatement; she's almost outgrown her car seat already. She's grown so much that Sam has taken to calling her 'Bubba.' 

Where does he come up with this stuff?


Monday, November 7, 2005

Positive Self-talk

I'm always talking to myself.  And I've heard it's okay to engage oneself in long as you don't answer.

Okay.  Sounds good to me.

Over time I have crafted this ability into a fine edged sword, that cuts both ways.

 Parry.  Thrust. 

I can talk myself into...or out of...almost anything.  I can easily fall into the pit of tearing myself down.  I often think we...women...excell at this, more so than men.  Why is that?  I know I am harder on myself than anyone else can possibly be on me.

Lighten up.  Those times I catch myself berating this or over analyzing that, I stop.  What am I doing to myself? 

It's one thing to do something well, but it's another thing to over do it.  And there is such a thing as overkill.

Years ago I discovered the art of self-talk and positive affirmations. There is power in affirming what is good and using the aid of visualization to bring goals into the here and now.  Some might call it day-dreaming...okay.  In our day dreams lies what we want, and maybe how we can get there.  In our dreams live the future.  The possibilities of our lives thrive in those dreams.  That is a magic.

Last week I found myself thumbing through the current issue of Ladies Home Journal, but alas I was waylaid by the new Stetson ad.  Tonight I picked the mag back up and another ad caught my eye.

When was the last time?

It's been too long.  This I know because I don't remember when.

I believe we must all be good to ourselves, and to each other.  We are the role models young people look to for guidance.  What are we teaching them?  How will they remember us?  Memories can last a lifetime, and some of the strongest memories we all carry are a mixed bag of happy days and crappy days.  And when things aren't going well, which will get us through those long dark tunnels, compelling us forward to the light we know is there?  The happy or the crappy?

I can't watch reality tv; what's real about it?  It's edited before it's aired.  Edited for ratings and entertainment value with one goal, pitting human against human.  When I see the ads on CBS I often wonder, are we as a society moving forward, or going backward.  If future generations, fifty or so years from now, were to watch these shows, what does the show say about us? 

We live in stress-filled times.  Little things can go wrong every day, and a series of little things can set us off.  Our anger can rear that ugly head at a moments notice and quickly go out of control.  Remember the wife who ran over her cheating husband in a parking lot?  No, cheating isn't a little thing, but something...many somethings...must have happened to her to push her past the point of reason; it seems she lost her perspective.  There are many other ways she could have dealt with his infidelity, less violent ways.

Keep your perspective.  Make it positive, full of lifes possibilities, brimming with promise.  With three simple words...

Keep hope alive.

I'm rambling, and I've proven that a picture is worth a thousand words.  Funny how one simple ad featuring one little girl can have this much impact.